There is no “right” answer to the question of how many children are enough. It’s common to hear both large and small families express sympathy or compassion for one another. While there is some truth to that, is it better to have just one child so we can focus all our resources and attention on them? Or is it best to have two or more children so that they always have each other, as well as us?
While there is no right answer, we have a few points to share that might help you figure out what’s best for you and your future or current family. Let’s talk about it.
Only Child
There is a huge difference between having one child and having none at all. Our lives change dramatically, and from the moment we find out we’re expecting until the end of our days, our choices involve another person. People often say that having one child is quite different from having more than one.
Many parents of only children point to the many advantages, such as being able to devote all their resources and time to one child, rather than having to share them.
Another reality of having just one child is that parents may have to make fewer adjustments to their lives. This is, in fact, a good thing if everyone’s needs are met; however, it can be a problem if the child always has to participate in activities with adults.
Many only children have mostly positive things to say about being an only child. They appreciate the undivided attention, there’s no sibling rivalry, and they generally have a greater sense of independence. However, some only children wish they had at least one sibling, and they often feel pressure to succeed because they are the only ones with expectations to live up to.
Some parents feel that there is a greater risk of spoiling an only child, which makes them worry that their little ones might grow up to be selfish.
Two Children
Much research suggests that having two children is what most people consider the ideal family size. That said, the Office for National Statistics reports that the number of one-child families has been rising over the past couple of decades.
Many people believe that having two children reduces the likelihood of spoiling them and gives the children a playmate. Having more than one child means that pregnancy is usually easier after the first baby. There is also the opportunity to pass down clothes and toys that the first child barely used.
It offers a sense of reassurance to parents who worry about what might happen to their children if something were to happen to them. Having two children means they will have each other during difficult times and moments of celebration.
Of course, there are some drawbacks to consider. Raising more than one child is bound to be exhausting, especially if they’re close in age. Paying the bills and covering everyday expenses will naturally be more expensive. There’s also the possibility of sibling rivalry to consider.
We could go on, adding another child to each scenario. However, we think you get the point. It’s up to no one but you and your partner to decide how many children are right for your family. The more children you have, the more ups and downs there will be. As long as we can provide a safe, secure, fulfilling, and happy life for our children, that’s all that matters.
